I hadn't even noticed the plants were weeds.
I didn't know there was any difference!
Hows your weeding going?
Yep I know, you think one day it will all change just if I give it a little more time. One day you will feel good enough to have enough energy and a life you love.
Thats what I thought when I had every imaginable thing break or die in my life!
If I just push through and make myself see all the wonderful things I have in my life. I am blessed aren't I? Thats what all the books say!
Im pleased YOU can see, all that Im blessed for because I sure can't right now!
This victim thing on one hand keeps me stuck and hurt but on the other hand it feels ok because its happening to ME. Its not my fault. Im not doing anything!
Hold on a minute....
If I can see it happening, surely I can change it? Whats the difference between catching a child before they tumble over and catching yourself before you tumble.
But its not my fault, I hear you scream.
Ive been there too.
And yes sometimes we need help from a professional to see what weeds lay hidden causing the on-going patterns.
When did you last clean out your handbag? (Believe it or not physical clutter can hold you stuck!)
Are you keeping those clothes in your wardrobe for the day you lose that 5 kg? (Never living now but hanging out for WHEN it may happen)
Is there someone you need to say sorry to?
Do you need to ask for help?
Do you need to change jobs?
Hidden weeds are exactly that, they grow out of site, sucking the earth dry of nutrients and potential. Take a moment to think about your life as a child. What situations of abuse, isolation, fear, trauma, or pain comes to mind. You think you have outgrown it because you don't think about it daily and it happened so long ago, so why would it be affecting your day to day life now?
Our bodies store these memories and feelings and I can guarantee that unless you can talk about or think about those events without feeling pain, hurt, emotional, angry or out of sorts than those weeds are moulding and affecting your life. Those hidden weeds are creating your life right now. If you have repeat patterns happening like I had where everything around me was breaking or if you always feel people don't listen to you or your business never quite takes off, then you have hidden weeds holding you stuck, frustrated and doubting your abilities.
Is this really how you want to live?
I know I sure don't!
What deeply hidden weeds do you hold?
In a session I often have people say "Ive never told anyone about this." That is how deeply hidden these weeds can be. I feel grateful that people trust me with their stories so these weeds can be plucked to allow new plants to flourish and grow. You may have to lift rocks, decayed leaves or logs to see the deeply hidden weeds below. You may feel sadness in releasing some but knowing that you are always supported and loved on your journey allows the sun to shine on the new plants.
"Before any garden can be seeded, the ground has to be prepared. The rocks and weeds need clearing, the earth has to be turned and the nutrients introduced. Starting to live life on your terms is the same. You have to clear the clutter from your life, internally and externally. You have to create the right environment to be able to grow your vision." Lynne Franks
The last few months for me have had an element of frustration attached. Why? Its like all the things around me are getting a re-vamp. From the bathroom leaking, puncture in a car tyre, tv puffing smoke, iPad dropping out of its cover and glass smashing, oven stopped working to tenants moving on after 7 years !!! Not only is it financially draining but mentally and emotionally it has also been challenging. Ive felt like Im going around in circles.
BUT as I believe everything happens for a reason, I decided to do a session on myself to see what was holding this pattern in place. Heres some of the beliefs I needed to balance.
Its safe to let go.
I deserve to love others.
Its possible to forgive men.
Doing my best is the best I can do.
It is always interesting that when we explore into why something is happening the way it is, often the issues healed are nothing to do with what is showing up now.
A few days ago, a client presented with " I can't get a job, whats wrong with me?" The real issue that was balanced was a situation that happened years ago where they felt left out by friends and never chosen.
Yes weeding can be frustrating and challenging.
Yes it feels like its never going to end.
Yes it feels like you are the only person its happening to.
Yes it can be painful.
You are about to make some major changes that will affect the rest of your life. And until the weeds are pulled your vision will stayed blurred, your energy will be low and it will feel like you are moving forward through a deep mud pond.
Weeds can come in many different forms.
Its a good idea to take a moment with a piece of paper and write about your fears.
What are you afraid of? Who are you afraid of? Where are you afraid to go? Do you have chaos happening so it allows you to feel important or loved? Do you not go to events because you don't feel good enough to take part? Do you get angry quickly which keeps people away?
Is it time you started to pull some weeds so you can grow your vision?