"I am always angry," I hear you say. "I have worked on resolving it for so many years but it really just won't go away."
Anger is an emotion.
Anger is a reaction to something threatening to us.
Anger is a mover and a shaker.
For many to feel anger is to feel out of control and uncivilised. And this leads to more repression and resentment.
We often think that if we could just change something or someone then we would not be angry anymore.
I want to look at the reasons why anger could be turning up in your life? Yes thats right, its not necessarily because someone is doing something to you, or because you have had a busy day and are tired.
I want you to image that you are a young girl or boy of 7 yrs. Every day you go to school, other kids talk over you and it appears to you that they really don't care about your opinions. Over time you decide its easier not to speak up because they don't respect your opinion or care about you anyway. Every now and again you get angry. The belief of Im not respected and no-one cares about me, has been formed in your subconscious mind through this experience
You start to get angry with people around you when they don't respect and care about you.
You start to notice that when you get angry, then people do take notice and do respect you.
So within this pattern there is a part of us that is gaining control as it is helping us to feel respected and cared for because when I get angry you stop what you are doing, listen, show respect and care about me.
Anger is not the real issue, it is a symptom. What you really are asking for when you get angry is to feel respected and cared about!
When we feel respected and cared about, the anger will not show up in the same way. We all have different reasons why anger is in our life. Don't get me wrong, anger is normal and useful when expressed in a healthy way.
So, what can you do to move forward and release anger from your day to day life?
Adjust your expectations.
When you feel the anger coming, stop yourself and take a walk away from the situaton.
Be gentle on yourself and dont take everything so personally.
Give yourself some extra support by finding a practitioner who can guide you gently through your life experiences, someone who can get to the root cause to release the real issues so you can live a life on your terms and your way.