"Oh that happened 10 years ago," I hear you say.
"Its long gone",
"Im over that."
How often do I hear that!
Yes the event may have happened 10 years ago but that does not mean the pain, hurt and stress from that event is forgotten or not impacting your life.
Unless we get the wisdom or ahha moment from that event then it sits in our energy field. Give it a little time sitting there, we then store it in our bodies. I see this as if we are sitting in a fire. The flames are jumping up around us and all we can see is the flames, the hurt, the pain, the stress, the doubt and the anger.
We have to deal with the moment, we want to survive, we want to live.
This is when we start to form the coat.
The impact is so great, so fast and so unfair, we have no idea what to do with it.
Never mind, maybe if I just keep busy or change jobs or change relationships I can forget it and get on with life. At this moment the emotions, in our subconscious minds are beginning to get stuffed down, allowing more memories, more adventures to sit on top and NOW I can forget it.
So you thought.
Have you ever watched a movie or a tv programme to suddenly find for some unknown reason tears running down your checks or feeling blah in your stomach? This is no accident. This is your subconscious mind letting you know that there is a memory stored that has a similar feeling to the programme, similar in sight, sound, smell or touch to what you are watching. The event or situation does not need to be the same, just one small strand will link you back in.
This is like wearing a mask of the hurt, pain, stress, doubt and anger and from that moment onwards no only do we see life through that mask, but others look back at us through that mask as well.
What would it feel like to step out of the fire, to ease the pain and hurt?
Firstly we need to de-stress that situation. We need to balance the brain, to allow both hemispheres to work evenly together instead of one side more dominant than the other. Its called a whole brained state, a state where the logical left brain is balanced with the creative right brain. Meaning the communication from the right hemisphere is as strong as the communication from the left side. I use a method called PSYCH-K that will quickly and easily resolve or dissolve the attachments to the fire.
When the fire has been put out, there is a completely different outcome. It is like stepping out of the fire, out of the hurt and pain. This then allows us to look at the fire or situation and make new choices. Choices from a place of calm and peace and non-attachment. Yes, we can never take away the event or situation and we would never want to, as its part of who we are. Its played a part in giving us strength and compassion, love and understanding.
But it does not have to rule our lives.
So where to from here?
Start taking notice when you get pissed off or frustrated, depressed or jealous. Is this really because of what just happened or because you are sick of people taking you for granted, or not respecting you or not seeing you. You may become aware of patterns, that I always feel disrespected or unloved or simply that life is so exhausting.
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