How long will this journey take?
​I hear this all the time.
How long will it take to be successful?
How long will it take to feel happy and healthy?
How long will it take to get out of debt?
How long will it take to have a loving relationship?
How long will it take to have a life I may love?
The answer is I don't know.  We all have different backgrounds.  We've all had different experiences.  We all have different fears and doubts.

What I do guarantee is we will work as fast as your body will allow.
What I do believe is that whatever goal you set for yourself is achievable.  If you are prepared to do the work and are prepared to work on yourself.  I am sure you will succeed if you are prepared to work on yourself.

And of course getting coaching will help to speed up that process.
Having a coach or facilitator  you trust is important so you can go as deep as you like or as shallow as you like, to get the results.
A facilitator understands where you are coming from and where you want to go.
A true coach believes in you and is there to support and nurture your journey so you can take the next step.

Do you feel like you are running towards your goals and dreams but just never seem to get there?  Clearly something is holding you back.  Chances are you are blocked by limiting beliefs you don't even know you have.
What is a limiting belief?​
A belief is something you believe to be true about yourself and the world around you.  Beliefs are mostly gained before the age of 7 from parents, friends, teachers at school and cultures.  These subconscious views run our day to day lives and create our potential to be successful or a failure, to be happy or unhappy, healthy, rich or poor.
​You mostly wont now what beliefs you are holding onto that are limiting you without taking a little time to access you life.  Beliefs become so automatic, they are just normal speech like, sorry I can't do that, I don't have enough money.
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Areas to look at is
​Relationships: Look how you interact with people.  Do you feel like you belong?  Do you feel loved and lovable?
Health:  Do you believe you are worthy of good health?  Are you always feeling like you have no energy?
Money:   When you were growing up were you told, we dont have money for fun adventures, so you learnt how to save, BUT when do you spend money on yourself
​Self Love and Care:  Are you a fantastic carer and it feels like you get so much from looking after people but you are exhausted and dont take time out for yourself?

​Steps to take to move out of been stuck into clarity and happiness.
When you feel like you are blocked, ask yourself, What do I really believe about myself that could be attracting this situation?
Say to yourself, I am willing to release the need to_________(be lonely or disrespected etc) 

If there is something that will change your life fast, it is changing old limiting beliefs into supporting, loving ones.

You came as a powerful being.
You came as a lover not a hater.
You came to expect good of yourself.

BUT

You have become so use to expecting negativity that you have come to expect that as a lifestyle.

Lets move on.....

Care about what you THINK.
Care about what you FEEL.
Care so so much about the way you feel.  I want you to become so particular about what you feel, just as much as what you feel about what you eat.
I don't hear you say I don't like that food but I will go back for more anyway.
So don't keep going back for more thoughts that you don't like.

Find the feelings and thoughts that taste good.
Care about it.
Make it a priority.

Lotsaluv
​Jx

What was I diagnosed with.......nothing really.
Yes my thyroid test showed I was out of balance, I had gallstones and my CK enzyme test was high.
CT scans, MRI, blood tests and ultra scan results  always said the same thing,
CONCLUSION - Normal

How did I feel?
Like crap, with a list of symptoms to fill up an A4 page. Some being exhaustion, weight gain, unmotivated, foggy brain, 2 hour sleep a night, beginnings of a cataract, and niggly  side pain.
As I said there was nothing majorly wrong.
Maybe its just part of getting older?

BUT this is NOT normal.

This is not how we need to live our daily lives just because it is showing as NORMAL.
Sadly it's become normal to drag ourselves out of bed each day. To put one foot in front of another to get through and to collapse at the end of the day exhausted.  Its become so automatic to live our life like this that at times we don't even notice how life has become.

I believe that wellness and healing comes in many shapes and forms that can look like exercise, healthy eating, changing mindset, resolving emotional issues, time out and doing what you love most.
I specialise in changing mindset and releasing emotions so that is one of the first things I work with.  
MINDSET is the KEY to CHANGE
What have I learn't from looking deep into how we think?

• Struggle is common.
• Hating ourself is easy and automatic.
• What we allow others to see can be the furtherest from the truth of what's happening inside.
• Rejection hurts so deeply, its hard to venture out again.
• We make up a story about ourselves like, 'Im not good enough' or 'Im unloveable', to keep ourselves safe.

Our thoughts will stop all healing if they are working against us. We have over 50000 thoughts in a day, which means over 35 thoughts per minute, so its important to have them as your friend and on our side supporting us.  

FOOD as LOVE
Food is an important fuel for our body.  It is a way to nourish and nurture our body.  Its a form of giving love back to ourselves.  
"Nutrients are the nourishing substances in food that are essential for the growth, development and maintenance of body functions."
- Perspectives in Nutrition, Wardlow and Insel

In other words, nutrients give our bodies instructions about how to function.  Its information for the body.  Instead of viewing food as the enemy, w can look to food as a way to create health and reduce disease by helping the body maintain function.
If there was no such thing as disease just dysfunction, imagine how we could look towards food, health and our bodies quite differently.  
I have been most grateful to Morley Robbins, the founder of The Magnesium Advocacy Group and the Root Cause Protocol for all his long hours of research into what is at the base of all dysfunction in our bodies.  
What have I learn't from doing the Root Cause Protocol?

• Make it simple.
• Its important to really listen to our bodies....they are always talking via aches, pains and emotions.
• When we get to the root cause, we heal.
• Trust, trust and trust what you are doing is right for us.

The two things I have learn't is BEIEVE IN YOURSELF.
When we get to the end of this life, whether you are a cleaner, truck driver or CEO  you will lay to rest beside each other.  There is no status, we are all the same. No matter what you do believe it is right for you, we do not need to satisfy anyone else's dreams or desires. Believe in yourself because you exist.
LOVE YOURSELF, yes thats right, love yourself.  Go for a walk because you love yourself enough to just do it, not because someone says its good for your health, or it will make you fit.   Take a job because it fulfils you, take a holiday because you just want to spend time with loved ones or because you want to have a break for you, not because you've heard, if I work hard I need to have a break, DO IT JUST BECAUSE YOU VALUE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO DO IT!

Start making NORMAL look how you wish it to look.
Thanks for listening.

​Jacky

What do you enjoy the most about YOURSELF?
​What lights you up when you think about doing it?

Sometimes your passions can be the obvious place to start.
Sometimes we have no idea what lights us up.
So then lets start with first looking at how you enjoy spending your time the best.  Make a list of twenty activities that you would like to do or at least try.
They could include going for a walk, dancing, meeting people or surfing.

Just dont forget to add passions that youve let go of.
What was your preferred activities as a child?
Perhaps you played a musical instrument or danced or played a sport.

What we are looking for is what lights you up and gives you a joyous feeling inside.  It makes you feel good.

There can be many goodies from our childhood that we loved doing that  you have now put to the side because of responsibilities of work, looking after a family or just no time.
Life takes over.
Life becomes automatic and before we realise it we feel stuck in a job that doesn't inspire us or a relationship that has gone stale.
This is a sure sign that your soul wants and needs to be lite up.

I have just finished writing a list of 100 things I want to do this year.  Yes it took me several hours to complete but I wanted a little more direction towards joy and fun and adventure.  Also when you write things down you are more likely to take the action.

Remember we do write our own life stories!

It is easy for us to think that when we get sick it is bad.  
That  it is against us.  
We think that disease is something we need to fight!

What if a disease came into our lives as a friend.   To give us a message, to let us know that there is something in our life that is out of balance.
I know it could be hard to get your head around!

Disease can be held by positive beliefs.
An example of a positive belief holding an illness in place could be that at a subconscious level you think that the disease will bring people, friends and family closer and you are loved and nurtured because of that.  In keeping the disease we feel loved and nurtured.

To release the illness at a subconscious level this person would need to know and understand that they  can be surrounded by loving and nurturing people, family and friends and are loved and nurtured without the disease.

This can be the case with disease, injury or negative programmes.

Its important to know how and why the disease or challenge is serving you in the first place.

ASK YOURSELF:

• What am I getting out of this issue/disease thats good or right?
• What am I learning  from it?

Yes I am /was a hands on mother.  I took on the role of "mother" as a serious occupation that took up my time, my body, my thoughts and really all of me.  And I held this role close to my heart and loved every little bit of it. 
It gave me purpose, it gave me value, it gave me love, it gave me acknowledgment, it gave me life.  It helped to make me who I am today.
"The conviction that life has a purpose is rooted in every fibre of man, it is a property of the human substance." - Primo Levi

Every minute of every year was working towards the goal that love and nourishment would allow my kids to fly free and do what brought them happiness in their lives.  For them to be strong and independent, loving, caring and kind but most of all to be free to be themselves.

You see, both my adult children have left home this year!

I  felt lost.  I felt stuck.  

I was at a crossroads and feeling very uncomfortable with so many questions.

Who am I?
What do I want to do?
What is my purpose now?

I realised my purpose was so wrapped up with caring for others.   Almost  at times feasting off their achievements.

My automatic response was to hibernate, to stay close to home till this lost feeling had gone.  Where was it going to go?
You see my brain loves a challenge.  It doesn't like uncertainty, it doesn't like feeling alone and lonely, but instead  was much happier to obsess endlessly over everything, or nothing.
Fear of uncertainty reared its head!

However what Ive come to understand is that the feeling of being alone or uncertain is just a thought that makes me feel vulnerable and exposed, with no connection or feeling of belonging.
Any change can have this impact.  It affects all of us. Its okay.

I have come to see that the more I surrender the easier this "alone" feeling becomes.  Giving myself gentle encouragement that this is where I am now.   I am safe, and I do have heaps of friends and support and really not alone  and that this feeling will change when I am ready for the next step.  And that is okay.
As I embrace this uncertainty, I not only feel more able to see clearer but I can start to thrive. Thrive in different ways. Ways I hadn't thought about before.  A whole new world opens up before my eyes, one I never really thought was possible but on some level always wanted!

Its liberating to take back control, to make choices for me, even if Im not certain what is ahead.

I have read many times that its not what you do once that makes a difference but what you do everyday and funny enough what I missed most was the routine. The expecting to see someone at the end of the day, somehow closes the day allowing a new sun to rise in the morning.

And just like in motherhood I have found peace and connection, value and fulfilment, love and appreciation in daily journalling,  meditation and trying new things.

This opens up the possibilities of whats ahead.  I don't have all the answers right now but theres many possibilities ahead.
I will continue to find my value and worth in myself as each day comes forward.

Can you relate?

cheers
​Jacqueline
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