It is easy for us to think that when we get sick it is bad.  
That  it is against us.  
We think that disease is something we need to fight!

What if a disease came into our lives as a friend.   To give us a message, to let us know that there is something in our life that is out of balance.
I know it could be hard to get your head around!

Disease can be held by positive beliefs.
An example of a positive belief holding an illness in place could be that at a subconscious level you think that the disease will bring people, friends and family closer and you are loved and nurtured because of that.  In keeping the disease we feel loved and nurtured.

To release the illness at a subconscious level this person would need to know and understand that they  can be surrounded by loving and nurturing people, family and friends and are loved and nurtured without the disease.

This can be the case with disease, injury or negative programmes.

Its important to know how and why the disease or challenge is serving you in the first place.

ASK YOURSELF:

• What am I getting out of this issue/disease thats good or right?
• What am I learning  from it?

Yes I am /was a hands on mother.  I took on the role of "mother" as a serious occupation that took up my time, my body, my thoughts and really all of me.  And I held this role close to my heart and loved every little bit of it. 
It gave me purpose, it gave me value, it gave me love, it gave me acknowledgment, it gave me life.  It helped to make me who I am today.
"The conviction that life has a purpose is rooted in every fibre of man, it is a property of the human substance." - Primo Levi

Every minute of every year was working towards the goal that love and nourishment would allow my kids to fly free and do what brought them happiness in their lives.  For them to be strong and independent, loving, caring and kind but most of all to be free to be themselves.

You see, both my adult children have left home this year!

I  felt lost.  I felt stuck.  

I was at a crossroads and feeling very uncomfortable with so many questions.

Who am I?
What do I want to do?
What is my purpose now?

I realised my purpose was so wrapped up with caring for others.   Almost  at times feasting off their achievements.

My automatic response was to hibernate, to stay close to home till this lost feeling had gone.  Where was it going to go?
You see my brain loves a challenge.  It doesn't like uncertainty, it doesn't like feeling alone and lonely, but instead  was much happier to obsess endlessly over everything, or nothing.
Fear of uncertainty reared its head!

However what Ive come to understand is that the feeling of being alone or uncertain is just a thought that makes me feel vulnerable and exposed, with no connection or feeling of belonging.
Any change can have this impact.  It affects all of us. Its okay.

I have come to see that the more I surrender the easier this "alone" feeling becomes.  Giving myself gentle encouragement that this is where I am now.   I am safe, and I do have heaps of friends and support and really not alone  and that this feeling will change when I am ready for the next step.  And that is okay.
As I embrace this uncertainty, I not only feel more able to see clearer but I can start to thrive. Thrive in different ways. Ways I hadn't thought about before.  A whole new world opens up before my eyes, one I never really thought was possible but on some level always wanted!

Its liberating to take back control, to make choices for me, even if Im not certain what is ahead.

I have read many times that its not what you do once that makes a difference but what you do everyday and funny enough what I missed most was the routine. The expecting to see someone at the end of the day, somehow closes the day allowing a new sun to rise in the morning.

And just like in motherhood I have found peace and connection, value and fulfilment, love and appreciation in daily journalling,  meditation and trying new things.

This opens up the possibilities of whats ahead.  I don't have all the answers right now but theres many possibilities ahead.
I will continue to find my value and worth in myself as each day comes forward.

Can you relate?

cheers
​Jacqueline


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 "I am always angry," I hear you say.  "I have worked on resolving it for so many years but it really just won't go  away."

Anger is an emotion.  
Anger is a reaction to something threatening to us.
Anger is a mover and a shaker.
For many to feel anger is to feel out of control and uncivilised.  And this leads to  more repression and resentment.
We often think that if we could just change something or someone then we would not be angry anymore.

I want to look at the reasons why anger could be turning up in your life?  Yes thats right, its not necessarily because someone is doing something to you, or because you have had a busy day and are tired.

I want you to image that you are a young girl or boy of 7 yrs.  Every day you go to school, other kids talk over you and it appears to you that they really don't care about your opinions. Over time you decide its easier not to speak up because they don't respect your opinion or care about you anyway. Every now and again you get angry.  The belief of Im not respected and no-one cares about me, has been formed in your subconscious mind through this experience

You start to get angry with people around you when they don't respect and care about you.
You start to notice that when  you get angry, then people do take notice and do respect you.
So within this pattern there is a part of us that is gaining control as it is helping us to feel respected and cared for because when I get angry  you stop what you are doing, listen, show respect  and care about me.

Anger is not the real issue, it is a symptom.  What you really are asking for when you get angry is to feel respected  and cared about!

When we feel respected and cared about, the anger will not show up in the same way.  We all have different reasons why anger is in our life.  Don't get me wrong, anger  is normal and useful when  expressed in a healthy way. 

So, what can you do to move forward and release anger from your day to day life?  
Adjust your expectations.
When you feel the anger coming, stop yourself and take a walk away from the situaton.
Be gentle on yourself and dont take everything so personally.
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Give yourself some extra support by finding a practitioner who can guide you gently through your life experiences, someone who can get to the root cause to release the real issues so you can live a life on your terms and your way.

cheers
Jacqueline




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Its so easy to fall off the personal development bandwagon and just be happy with what you have or get.
One minute we are feeling amazing and making great progress, the next we are feeling totally lost, confused and out of alignment with our goals, relationships, health and life..

If you are feeling like this I've created this challenge just for you.

Do this for the next 30 days.  Say yes to you, commit to you.
This is for you.  To help you feel good and to get to where you want.

Immerse Yourself in creating a new reality.  Remember that only you gets to choose how you feel, so immerse yourself for the next 30 days.  You can do this.
Have fun, don't be hard on yourself.  This is to help you get back into the flow, to help your dreams become a reality.  Remember the vibration of joy is higher than love.

1.  The first step is to reconnect with yourself.
Louise Hay is famous for her mirror work.  Every morning go and stand in front of a  mirror,  look into your eyes and say, I love you, I really love you, Use your name too like Jacky, I love you, Jacky I really love you.  This will take all of 1 minute.  Even if you think its strange, do it, do it at least once a day for 30 days and see what happens.

2.  Spend 5 minutes visualising your dreams.  
Choose one goal and get lost in your imagination.   What does it smell like?  What does it look like?  What people are in the picture?  What sounds are around?  Get as clear a picture as possible so you can feel yourself getting excited about it.

3.  What are your fears?
Ask yourself what is your biggest fear around having your dream come true?  Do you fear you wont have enough money, that friends wont like you, or that you will be alone.
​So get the fear, eg I fear been alone.
​Then turn the word into a person, so now you have "alone" standing in front of you.  Talk to them and ask what is it you are teaching me?  Be open and curious to what reply you get.  Thank them and let them go and see them thanking you.

4.  Get focused.
​What are your top goals for today?   Use a daily planner and write down what you want to accomplish today. Check in at lunch time to see how you are going.

5.  Take time out.
Take at least 5 minutes to go for a walk or sit in quiet.  Let your body refuel from the calm peace of not having to do anything.  Take this time for you.

To see how I could help you take your dreams to another level visit me at  www.jackyabbott.com

Physicists Confirm There's a Second Layer of Information Hidden in Our DNA Incredible.

FIONA MACDONALD 
9 JUN 2016 
Theoretical physicists have confirmed that it's not just the information coded into our DNA that shapes who we are - it's also the way DNA folds itself that controls which genes are expressed inside our bodies.
That's something biologists have known for years, and they've even been able to figure out some of the proteins responsible for folding up DNA. But now a group of physicists have been able to demonstrate for the first time through simulations how this hidden information controls our evolution.
Let's back up for a second here, because although it's not necessarily news to many scientists, this second level of DNA information might not be something you're familiar with.
As you probably learnt in high school, Watson and Crick discovered in 1953 the double helix structure of DNA. Since then we've learnt that the DNA code that determines who we are is made up of a sequence of the letters G, A, C, and T. 
The order of these letters determines which proteins are made in our cells. So, if you have brown eyes, it's because your DNA contains a particular series of letters that encodes for a protein that makes the dark pigment inside your iris.
But that's not the whole story, because all the cells in your body start out with the exact same DNA code, but every organ has a very different function - your stomach cells don't need to produce the brown eye protein, but they do need to produce digestive enzymes. So how does that work?
Since the '80s, scientists have found that the way DNA is folded up inside our cells actually controls this process. Environmental factors can play a big role in this process too, with things like stress known to turn certain genes on and offthrough something known as epigenetics.
But the mechanics of the DNA folding is an incredibly important control mechanism. That's because every single cell in our body contains around 2 metres of DNA, so to fit inside us, it has to be tightly wrapped up into a bundle called a nucleosome - like a thread around a spool.
And the way the DNA is wrapped up controls which genes are 'read' by the rest of the cell - genes that are all wrapped on the inside won't be expressed as proteins, but those on the outside will. This explains why different cells have the same DNA but different functions.
In recent years, biologists have even started to isolate the mechanical cues that determine the way DNA is folded, by 'grabbing onto' certain parts of the genetic code or changing the shape of the 'spool' the DNA is wrapped around. 
So far, so good, but what do theoretical physicists have to do with all this?
A team from Leiden University in the Netherlands has now been able to step back and look at the process on a whole-genome scale, and back up through computer simulations that these mechanical cues are actually coded into our DNA. 
The physicists, led by Helmut Schiessel, did this by simulating the genomes of both baker's yeast and fission yeast, and then randomly assigning them a second level of DNA information, complete with mechanical cues.
They were able to show that these cues affected how the DNA was folded and which proteins are expressed - further evidence that the mechanics of DNA are written into our DNA, and they're just as important in our evolution as the code itself.
This means the researchers have shown that there's more than one way that DNA mutations can affect us: by changing the letters in our DNA, or simply by changing the mechanical cues that arrange the way a strand is folded.
"The mechanics of the DNA structure can change, resulting in different packaging and levels of DNA accessibility," they explain, "and therefore differing frequency of production of that protein."
Again, this is simply backing up what many biologists already knew, but what's really exciting from a purely speculative point of view is the fact that the computer simulations open up the possibility for scientists to model and maybe one day even manipulate the mechanical cues that shape our genetic code.
There's no evidence that we can do that just yet, but what we do know is that the more scientists understand about how our DNA is controlled and folded, the closer we get to being able to improve upon it.
The research has been published in PLOS ONE. ​
​http://www.sciencealert.com/scientists-confirm-a-second-layer-of-information-hiding-in-dna

I hadn't even noticed the plants were weeds.
I didn't know there was any difference!  


Hows your weeding going?

Hard?

Ok?

Not happening!

Yep I know, you think one day it will all change just if I give it a little more time. One day you will feel good enough to have enough energy and a life you love.

Thats what I thought when I had every imaginable thing break or die in my life!

If I just push through and make myself see all the wonderful things I have in my life.  I am blessed aren't I?  Thats what all the books say!

Im pleased YOU can see, all that Im blessed for because I sure can't right now!

This victim thing on one hand keeps me stuck and hurt but on the other hand it feels ok because its happening to ME.  Its not my fault.  Im not doing anything!

Hold on a minute....

If I can see it happening, surely I can change it?  Whats the difference between catching a child before they tumble over and catching yourself before you tumble.

But its not my fault, I hear you scream.

Ive been there too.

And yes sometimes we need help from a professional to see what weeds lay hidden causing the on-going patterns.

Start small.
When did you last clean out your handbag? (Believe it or not physical clutter can hold you stuck!)
Are you keeping those clothes in your wardrobe for the day you lose that 5 kg? (Never living now but hanging out for WHEN it may happen)
Is there someone you need to say sorry to?
Do you need to ask for help?
Do you need to change jobs?

Hidden weeds are exactly that, they grow out of site, sucking the earth dry of nutrients and potential.  Take a moment to think about your life as a child.  What situations of abuse, isolation, fear, trauma, or pain comes to mind.  You think you have outgrown it because you don't think about it daily and it happened so long ago,  so why would it be affecting your day to day life now?

Our bodies store these memories and feelings and I can guarantee that unless you can talk about or think about those events without feeling pain, hurt, emotional, angry or out of sorts than those weeds are moulding and affecting your life.  Those hidden weeds are creating your life  right now.  If you have repeat patterns happening like I had where everything around me was breaking or if you always feel people don't listen to you or your business never quite takes off, then you have hidden weeds holding you stuck, frustrated and doubting your abilities.

Is this really how you want to live?

I know I sure don't!

What deeply hidden weeds do you hold?

In a session I often have people say "Ive never told anyone about this."  That is how deeply hidden these weeds can be.  I feel grateful that people trust me with their stories so these weeds can be plucked to allow new plants to flourish and grow.  You may have to lift rocks, decayed leaves or logs to see the deeply hidden weeds below.  You may feel sadness in releasing some but knowing that you are always supported and loved on your journey allows the sun to shine on the new plants.

love
Jacky
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At the end of last year I got the chance to do a PSYCH-K course that would help to change my perception about my  body and life.  The Optimal Health and Wellbeing balance is an efficient way to discover and change subconscious beliefs that may be blocking you from achieving  optimal health in body, mind, and spirit.  The Balance includes twenty-two pairs of belief statements that represent qualities and attributes research shows may be associated with optimal health.

What price do you put on your health?  It is much easier to maintain good health than start getting healthy when something goes wrong.  We take a car to the garage for a service, so why would you not give yourself the gift of a service,  to help  your thoughts and emotions to run smoothly.

I always remember when I was in my teen years,  I thought it would be great to put  on weight.   I could eat anything at that time  and never put an ounce on but a few years later I went to Outward Bound, a 28 day outdoor adventure course where I was introduced to king size chocolate bars!!  I was fine while doing the course as all the exercise burnt up everything I ate but when I got home, I had become quite fond of the king size chocolate bars and the weight started to increase.  I always remember it was much harder to get it off once it was on and I think our health is the same.  Its a harder road to suddenly get healthy while you are dealing with the emotional aspect of illness.

Clients who book in monthly see it like a tune up.  Clearing and building as issues present themselves   stopping the same patterns from playing out continually.  The growth and empowerment is huge.


cheers 
Jacky