You came as a powerful being.
You came as a lover not a hater.
You came to expect good of yourself.

BUT

You have become so use to expecting negativity that you have come to expect that as a lifestyle.

Lets move on.....

Care about what you THINK.
Care about what you FEEL.
Care so so much about the way you feel.  I want you to become so particular about what you feel, just as much as what you feel about what you eat.
I don't hear you say I don't like that food but I will go back for more anyway.
So don't keep going back for more thoughts that you don't like.

Find the feelings and thoughts that taste good.
Care about it.
Make it a priority.

Lotsaluv
​Jx

What was I diagnosed with.......nothing really.
Yes my thyroid test showed I was out of balance, I had gallstones and my CK enzyme test was high.
CT scans, MRI, blood tests and ultra scan results  always said the same thing,
CONCLUSION - Normal

How did I feel?
Like crap, with a list of symptoms to fill up an A4 page. Some being exhaustion, weight gain, unmotivated, foggy brain, 2 hour sleep a night, beginnings of a cataract, and niggly  side pain.
As I said there was nothing majorly wrong.
Maybe its just part of getting older?

BUT this is NOT normal.

This is not how we need to live our daily lives just because it is showing as NORMAL.
Sadly it's become normal to drag ourselves out of bed each day. To put one foot in front of another to get through and to collapse at the end of the day exhausted.  Its become so automatic to live our life like this that at times we don't even notice how life has become.

I believe that wellness and healing comes in many shapes and forms that can look like exercise, healthy eating, changing mindset, resolving emotional issues, time out and doing what you love most.
I specialise in changing mindset and releasing emotions so that is one of the first things I work with.  
MINDSET is the KEY to CHANGE
What have I learn't from looking deep into how we think?

• Struggle is common.
• Hating ourself is easy and automatic.
• What we allow others to see can be the furtherest from the truth of what's happening inside.
• Rejection hurts so deeply, its hard to venture out again.
• We make up a story about ourselves like, 'Im not good enough' or 'Im unloveable', to keep ourselves safe.

Our thoughts will stop all healing if they are working against us. We have over 50000 thoughts in a day, which means over 35 thoughts per minute, so its important to have them as your friend and on our side supporting us.  

FOOD as LOVE
Food is an important fuel for our body.  It is a way to nourish and nurture our body.  Its a form of giving love back to ourselves.  
"Nutrients are the nourishing substances in food that are essential for the growth, development and maintenance of body functions."
- Perspectives in Nutrition, Wardlow and Insel

In other words, nutrients give our bodies instructions about how to function.  Its information for the body.  Instead of viewing food as the enemy, w can look to food as a way to create health and reduce disease by helping the body maintain function.
If there was no such thing as disease just dysfunction, imagine how we could look towards food, health and our bodies quite differently.  
I have been most grateful to Morley Robbins, the founder of The Magnesium Advocacy Group and the Root Cause Protocol for all his long hours of research into what is at the base of all dysfunction in our bodies.  
What have I learn't from doing the Root Cause Protocol?

• Make it simple.
• Its important to really listen to our bodies....they are always talking via aches, pains and emotions.
• When we get to the root cause, we heal.
• Trust, trust and trust what you are doing is right for us.

The two things I have learn't is BEIEVE IN YOURSELF.
When we get to the end of this life, whether you are a cleaner, truck driver or CEO  you will lay to rest beside each other.  There is no status, we are all the same. No matter what you do believe it is right for you, we do not need to satisfy anyone else's dreams or desires. Believe in yourself because you exist.
LOVE YOURSELF, yes thats right, love yourself.  Go for a walk because you love yourself enough to just do it, not because someone says its good for your health, or it will make you fit.   Take a job because it fulfils you, take a holiday because you just want to spend time with loved ones or because you want to have a break for you, not because you've heard, if I work hard I need to have a break, DO IT JUST BECAUSE YOU VALUE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO DO IT!

Start making NORMAL look how you wish it to look.
Thanks for listening.

​Jacky
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What do you enjoy the most about YOURSELF?
​What lights you up when you think about doing it?

Sometimes your passions can be the obvious place to start.
Sometimes we have no idea what lights us up.
So then lets start with first looking at how you enjoy spending your time the best.  Make a list of twenty activities that you would like to do or at least try.
They could include going for a walk, dancing, meeting people or surfing.

Just dont forget to add passions that youve let go of.
What was your preferred activities as a child?
Perhaps you played a musical instrument or danced or played a sport.

What we are looking for is what lights you up and gives you a joyous feeling inside.  It makes you feel good.

There can be many goodies from our childhood that we loved doing that  you have now put to the side because of responsibilities of work, looking after a family or just no time.
Life takes over.
Life becomes automatic and before we realise it we feel stuck in a job that doesn't inspire us or a relationship that has gone stale.
This is a sure sign that your soul wants and needs to be lite up.

I have just finished writing a list of 100 things I want to do this year.  Yes it took me several hours to complete but I wanted a little more direction towards joy and fun and adventure.  Also when you write things down you are more likely to take the action.

Remember we do write our own life stories!
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It is easy for us to think that when we get sick it is bad.  
That  it is against us.  
We think that disease is something we need to fight!

What if a disease came into our lives as a friend.   To give us a message, to let us know that there is something in our life that is out of balance.
I know it could be hard to get your head around!

Disease can be held by positive beliefs.
An example of a positive belief holding an illness in place could be that at a subconscious level you think that the disease will bring people, friends and family closer and you are loved and nurtured because of that.  In keeping the disease we feel loved and nurtured.

To release the illness at a subconscious level this person would need to know and understand that they  can be surrounded by loving and nurturing people, family and friends and are loved and nurtured without the disease.

This can be the case with disease, injury or negative programmes.

Its important to know how and why the disease or challenge is serving you in the first place.

ASK YOURSELF:

• What am I getting out of this issue/disease thats good or right?
• What am I learning  from it?

Yes I am /was a hands on mother.  I took on the role of "mother" as a serious occupation that took up my time, my body, my thoughts and really all of me.  And I held this role close to my heart and loved every little bit of it. 
It gave me purpose, it gave me value, it gave me love, it gave me acknowledgment, it gave me life.  It helped to make me who I am today.
"The conviction that life has a purpose is rooted in every fibre of man, it is a property of the human substance." - Primo Levi

Every minute of every year was working towards the goal that love and nourishment would allow my kids to fly free and do what brought them happiness in their lives.  For them to be strong and independent, loving, caring and kind but most of all to be free to be themselves.

You see, both my adult children have left home this year!

I  felt lost.  I felt stuck.  

I was at a crossroads and feeling very uncomfortable with so many questions.

Who am I?
What do I want to do?
What is my purpose now?

I realised my purpose was so wrapped up with caring for others.   Almost  at times feasting off their achievements.

My automatic response was to hibernate, to stay close to home till this lost feeling had gone.  Where was it going to go?
You see my brain loves a challenge.  It doesn't like uncertainty, it doesn't like feeling alone and lonely, but instead  was much happier to obsess endlessly over everything, or nothing.
Fear of uncertainty reared its head!

However what Ive come to understand is that the feeling of being alone or uncertain is just a thought that makes me feel vulnerable and exposed, with no connection or feeling of belonging.
Any change can have this impact.  It affects all of us. Its okay.

I have come to see that the more I surrender the easier this "alone" feeling becomes.  Giving myself gentle encouragement that this is where I am now.   I am safe, and I do have heaps of friends and support and really not alone  and that this feeling will change when I am ready for the next step.  And that is okay.
As I embrace this uncertainty, I not only feel more able to see clearer but I can start to thrive. Thrive in different ways. Ways I hadn't thought about before.  A whole new world opens up before my eyes, one I never really thought was possible but on some level always wanted!

Its liberating to take back control, to make choices for me, even if Im not certain what is ahead.

I have read many times that its not what you do once that makes a difference but what you do everyday and funny enough what I missed most was the routine. The expecting to see someone at the end of the day, somehow closes the day allowing a new sun to rise in the morning.

And just like in motherhood I have found peace and connection, value and fulfilment, love and appreciation in daily journalling,  meditation and trying new things.

This opens up the possibilities of whats ahead.  I don't have all the answers right now but theres many possibilities ahead.
I will continue to find my value and worth in myself as each day comes forward.

Can you relate?

cheers
​Jacqueline


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 "I am always angry," I hear you say.  "I have worked on resolving it for so many years but it really just won't go  away."

Anger is an emotion.  
Anger is a reaction to something threatening to us.
Anger is a mover and a shaker.
For many to feel anger is to feel out of control and uncivilised.  And this leads to  more repression and resentment.
We often think that if we could just change something or someone then we would not be angry anymore.

I want to look at the reasons why anger could be turning up in your life?  Yes thats right, its not necessarily because someone is doing something to you, or because you have had a busy day and are tired.

I want you to image that you are a young girl or boy of 7 yrs.  Every day you go to school, other kids talk over you and it appears to you that they really don't care about your opinions. Over time you decide its easier not to speak up because they don't respect your opinion or care about you anyway. Every now and again you get angry.  The belief of Im not respected and no-one cares about me, has been formed in your subconscious mind through this experience

You start to get angry with people around you when they don't respect and care about you.
You start to notice that when  you get angry, then people do take notice and do respect you.
So within this pattern there is a part of us that is gaining control as it is helping us to feel respected and cared for because when I get angry  you stop what you are doing, listen, show respect  and care about me.

Anger is not the real issue, it is a symptom.  What you really are asking for when you get angry is to feel respected  and cared about!

When we feel respected and cared about, the anger will not show up in the same way.  We all have different reasons why anger is in our life.  Don't get me wrong, anger  is normal and useful when  expressed in a healthy way. 

So, what can you do to move forward and release anger from your day to day life?  
Adjust your expectations.
When you feel the anger coming, stop yourself and take a walk away from the situaton.
Be gentle on yourself and dont take everything so personally.
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Give yourself some extra support by finding a practitioner who can guide you gently through your life experiences, someone who can get to the root cause to release the real issues so you can live a life on your terms and your way.

cheers
Jacqueline




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Its so easy to fall off the personal development bandwagon and just be happy with what you have or get.
One minute we are feeling amazing and making great progress, the next we are feeling totally lost, confused and out of alignment with our goals, relationships, health and life..

If you are feeling like this I've created this challenge just for you.

Do this for the next 30 days.  Say yes to you, commit to you.
This is for you.  To help you feel good and to get to where you want.

Immerse Yourself in creating a new reality.  Remember that only you gets to choose how you feel, so immerse yourself for the next 30 days.  You can do this.
Have fun, don't be hard on yourself.  This is to help you get back into the flow, to help your dreams become a reality.  Remember the vibration of joy is higher than love.

1.  The first step is to reconnect with yourself.
Louise Hay is famous for her mirror work.  Every morning go and stand in front of a  mirror,  look into your eyes and say, I love you, I really love you, Use your name too like Jacky, I love you, Jacky I really love you.  This will take all of 1 minute.  Even if you think its strange, do it, do it at least once a day for 30 days and see what happens.

2.  Spend 5 minutes visualising your dreams.  
Choose one goal and get lost in your imagination.   What does it smell like?  What does it look like?  What people are in the picture?  What sounds are around?  Get as clear a picture as possible so you can feel yourself getting excited about it.

3.  What are your fears?
Ask yourself what is your biggest fear around having your dream come true?  Do you fear you wont have enough money, that friends wont like you, or that you will be alone.
​So get the fear, eg I fear been alone.
​Then turn the word into a person, so now you have "alone" standing in front of you.  Talk to them and ask what is it you are teaching me?  Be open and curious to what reply you get.  Thank them and let them go and see them thanking you.

4.  Get focused.
​What are your top goals for today?   Use a daily planner and write down what you want to accomplish today. Check in at lunch time to see how you are going.

5.  Take time out.
Take at least 5 minutes to go for a walk or sit in quiet.  Let your body refuel from the calm peace of not having to do anything.  Take this time for you.

To see how I could help you take your dreams to another level visit me at  www.jackyabbott.com